In another life, I would make you stay so I don’t have to say you were the one that got away.
—Katy Perry, “The One That Got Away” (2011)
The thing about life is that you’ll never know who you’ll bump into. Some people come into your world and choose to stay. Others just suddenly pack up and leave; some don’t even bother to say good-bye.
The one that got away is someone you’ll probably encounter. But how do you know for sure that the person is indeed the one who got away?
Maybe it’s the person whom you’ve shared a “right love, wrong time” kind of relationship. Perhaps it’s the person you took for granted. It could be someone who just left without an explanation. Whoever that someone may be, that person just went off your radar. From being lovers, you two have now become strangers to each other.
As memories rush through you, you can’t help but wonder why you two came to an end. The questions “Wasn’t I good enough?” and “What have I done wrong?” roam your head. Maybe you had too much expectations. Maybe you’ve tried too hard it scared the person off.
Sometimes, you even find yourself crying in the middle of the night at the thought of the person. Although you hope for the person to come back, you know deep down that it’s not going to happen. Face it: it’s over. The end.
Even though it sucks, you have to accept the fact that the person indeed got away. No matter how much it hurts you, you have to let the person go. There’s no use holding on to something that isn’t there anymore. You’ll never be able to move on if you keep hanging on to something that already died.
After you’ve had a good cry, go and pick yourself up from this mess. Remember, you are stronger than this. The one that got away does not (and will not) define you as a person. Sure, your relationship may not have worked out like the happy ending of a fantasy storybook. But chances are, your separation is probably for the best. It’s probably fate telling you that it has better things in store. So keep your head up and hope for the best. No bad relationship is going to ruin you.